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I Asked New Yorkers 'When Is The Right Time To Say I Love You'?

Six months in? Two weeks in? One day in?

This week, I took to the streets of New York City to ask men and women one very important question: "When is the right time to say I love you?"  

Their responses were, well, heartwarming. What interested me the most was that, regardless of gender, age, sexuality, or current relationship status, everyone pretty much came to the same conclusion: the right time to say 'I love you' is when you feel it.

One woman, Hailee Derrick, and her future husband, took it pretty slow and steady. "When we were dating, we didn't say 'I love you' until six months into the relationship, and I thought that was a good amount of time to get to know each other and to really think about whether we wanted to go to that next step," she told A Plus. 

Another couple, Luke O'Gorman and Laura Navarro, recalled waiting three to four months before dropping the 'L' bomb. "I was pretty sure she was going to say it back to me but that one percent … of doubt was just enough for me to be really scared about it, but I just — bleh! Just blurted it out," O'Gorman told A Plus. "And she didn't tell me to get lost." 

For singleton Santiago Palma, he knows he's in love "when you feel like, every day you think about a person, and you start talking every day or, even though you're not talking, you see something and you already think about a person." 

Steve Kress, who's been in love with his wife for longer than either of them can remember, also weighed in with some sage advice. "I think you should say I love you when you feel like you're in love… It sort of bubbles up from deep inside in a very special place," he told A Plus. "It's very much an organic feeling." 

So the consensus is that there's no consensus — just when your heart tells you. So listen up and spit it out.

Love, Lindsay Investigates, an offshoot of the Love, Lindsay column, is a series where A Plus's relationship guru/columnist ventures out into the world to ask people how they feel about a range of topics related to dating, relationships, and sex. Because, let's face it, everyone has an opinion when it comes to love. 

Want to see more Love, Lindsay Investigates? Check out last week's rendition where I took to the streets of New York City to ask men and women how they feel about the new male birth control pill

And if you've got a burning love question you want me to answer or a relationship topic you'd like me to take to the streets, submit to lovelindsay@aplus.com


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