Why I Will Always Date A Feminist

Dispelling myths about feminism.

When I first read the "Why I'll Never Date A Feminist" column, I couldn't help but wonder if the article missed the opportunity to praise feminism for empowering women.

Or perhaps a bad first date influenced the questionable article.

In case you missed it, the controversial essay published in Josephine Magazine got the Internet talking. The author, Dave Hon, incorrectly assumed that feminism is somehow destroying the very fabric of the courtship process.

In his misogynistic rant, the author openly disagrees with numerous facts. He denies the existence of the gender wage gap. He doesn't believe that rape culture is rampant on college campuses. And he disagrees with all factual evidence explaining the oppression that women face.

What's next? Is the author going to write that gravity is a complete hoax?

In his woman-hater manifesto, Hon accused feminism as the main culprit behind modern-day failed relationships.

"People who are more loyal to their gender and not their significant other don't make good partners," Hon wrote. "It's a shame, really, that this divide is widening between the sexes."

It appears that the author has very little understanding as to what feminism actually is. Feminism has strengthened relationships by giving a voice to women and by promoting equality between both partners.

Or simply put, feminism and romance go perfectly together.

But instead of embracing that very obvious sentiment, the author summarizes feminism with one false definition.

It's "anti-male," he wrote.

And it's that anti-feminist statement that people on social media called out as the crux of the author's flawed essay.

The author firmly believes that being a feminist means being anti-male, which isn't true. On the contrary, feminism is about destroying social and economic barriers for women — and for men. In fact, some of the greatest supporters of feminism are men. By defeating the traditional gender system and ending the objectification of women, everyone will benefit.

As singer and activist Annie Lennox said, feminism is "not about being more powerful than men — it's about having equal rights with protection, support, justice."

And while the author of the contentious essay refuses to date feminists, I would gladly be fortunate to date a feminist when given the opportunity. Feminists are intelligent, generous, articulate, drama-free, judgment-free, ambitious, open-minded and independent.

If you don't want to date a feminist, it's your choice, but you're clearly missing out on something great.

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