Viral List Of 'Statements For Women' Is An Important Reminder Of How Double Standards Affect Our Behavior

How many of these do you use?

While many advancements have been made toward women's equality, when it comes to behavior, much of how women act continues to be defined by double standards set by society. Especially in professional environments, displays of confidence and power by females continue to be judged much harsher than if the same displays are made by males. A woman who speaks up or interrupts someone during a meeting would be judged as rude, while a man who does the same thing often passes without comment.


This week, in an effort to reclaim the conversation, Twitter user Gem Short @vegbby posted a list of statements that women often forget are in their arsenal as the bluntness and confidence exuded in the phrases are not typically considered to be positive traits for women.

The list, that she called "good statements for women to practice," includes the following: You interrupted me, I'm not finished talking; no; that isn't funny; that isn't appropriate; i already know that; that won't be necessary; leave me alone; you're making me uncomfortable; stop ignoring what i'm saying.

As of publication, the list has been retweeted over 110,000 times and liked almost 300. The post also caught the eye of some notable Twitter users, such as Chrissy Teigen.

While the list has been championed by many female Twitter users, with one printing out the tweet and hanging it near her desk, others pointed out that the burden of changing how double standards define our behavior should not rest solely on the shoulders of women. In response, user Kate Leth created a list of "good statements for men to practice" that includes: I'm sorry; I shouldn't have done that; no problem, good night; dude don't say that shit; please continue; she wasn't finished; how can I help; and actually, that was her idea.

Leth's post did not go as viral as the initial list, but it opened up an important discussion about how the goal of gender equality isn't to take rights away from others, but to allow both women and men to both be treated as competent, confident people by society. 

"Interestingly, not one of these diminishes the orator in any way," one commenter wrote. "They only take a modicum of self-awareness to implement. It's also [very] liberating to simply be a better person."


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