Couples In Love Look Like Unfinished Paintings And Reveal Their Secret To A Long, Happy Marriage

“A sense of humor, patience, love and a bad memory.”

Photographer David Weightman has been snapshotting wedding days for over a decade. And while new love is his main focus, it's mature love that really captures his eye. In 2016, the U.K.-based photographer decided to celebrate the longevity of marriage with a photo series of couples who've been married for 50 plus years. 

At every wedding he photographed, Weightman would find an old couple to include In his series titled The Secret.  Each portrait is accompanied by the couple's answer to one of love's biggest questions: What is the secret to a long and happy marriage?

"I've been a wedding photographer in Surrey, my home county, and around the U.K. for over ten years, and have shot over two hundred weddings," Weightman told A Plus. "I'm always inspired by my couples, but I started to realize that there were relationships and family histories that weren't being told as part of the wedding day story. I'd done a lot of different photo projects earlier in my career, and wanted to do something related to weddings and marriage that wasn't 'wedding photography' as such."

The sweet images of seasoned lovebirds aren't your average couples portrait. Weightman uses mixed media to give the photos an artsy effect fit for a gallery. "I've always been fascinated by unfinished paintings by the old masters," the photographer said. "I find it really interesting to see the hand of the artist, and some of the process of painting. I used to draw and paint before I got into photography, and I don't think I've seen anything quite like the process of merging photographic elements with painting that I had imagined. There was also a very practical reason for using a montage technique. I realized that it would be difficult to pose couples creatively in just a short space of time on the wedding day, so they were photographed individually. The photographic portraits were then montaged together in Photoshop and outputted as large format prints, which I could then paint and draw on using combinations of ink, charcoal, gouache paint and pencil."

See the images and all the marriage secrets below. 

1. Sheila & Archie, Married September 6, 1952

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"The secret of a happy marriage is to give and take and look after one another, that goes for both of us. Always work through problem sand never give up. Don't expect too much, be happy with what you have."

2. Michael & Elizabeth, Married February 16, 1985

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"A bit of luck. How can you really know someone until you have lived with them? But three things come to mind. Firstly physical, lots of sex, especially in the early days. Secondly kids, something you two uniquely share. It's hard work, needs a sense of responsibility, and a sense of humor doesn't hurt, especially when it is just so awful. Thirdly luck, when kids are grown, do you still like each other? Do you want to travel, try new foods etc. Do you care as you both get older? If you do, then it works!"

3. Maurice & Anne, Married September 1, 1959

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"Always, whatever happens, be the best of friends, in good times and bad."

4. Cynthia & Peter, Married September 2, 1961

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"We have always had shared interests and spend most of our time together, but also have time to pursue our own hobbies. I love painting and Peter does picture framing."

5. Gavin & Christina, Married October 27, 1979

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"Love, respect, and faith in each other and my religion." - Christina

 

"Phil Collins." - Gavin

6. Julia & Royson, Married June 6, 1959

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"Enjoy each other, sharing things together, work and support each other always, and say good night with a kiss. I wouldn't change him for the world."

7. Mary & Graham, Married June 26,1965

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"Good luck and good genes, and no conflicting interests."

8. Theresa & John, Married July 31,1971

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"Love, patience and understanding."

9. Vivian & Michael, Married June 16, 1990

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"Communication and hard work, and keeping a blend of things done together and independent interests."

10. Alan & Judith, Married July 15, 1971

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"The emotional intelligence to recognize that there is a need for compromise with another sentient being. The energy and determination to fight for compromises which are acceptable. A conviction that even though we both live with the most annoying person we can imagine, all alternatives would be much worse. A recognition that if we are to provide good examples for our children and grandchildren then we need to embrace differences and demonstrate that conflicts can be resolved constructively. The physical luck and strength to live long enough." - Alan

"The secret to a long happy marriage is to do lots of different things separately so you each bring new ideas and interest to the relationship. The odd difference of opinion is good to keep the other on their toes!" - Judith

11. Joyce & James, Married October 4, 1952

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"Tolerance, give and take, and a kiss good night at the end of the day, no matter how many arguments you've had." - Joyce

"Doing as I'm told." - James

12. David & Margaret, Married February 11, 1956

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"Love, all you need is love. Love is all you need."

13. Barry & Marion, Married March 15,1975

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"Lots of laughter."

14. David & Maureen, Married October 28, 1967

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"Give and take."

15. Les & Fay, Married April 22,1967

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"Get through the hard times with each other, and enjoy the good times. You're only here once, it's not a dress rehearsal, so enjoy it."

16. Tina & Alongi, Married July 25, 1964

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"Be strong through good times and bad, and make sure of a good day after a bad one."

17. Michael & Sue, Married November 26,1977

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"Love, friendship, patience and a sense of humor."

18. Roy & Beryl, Married March 25,1961

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"Tolerance and understanding."

19. Valerie & Christopher, Married February 18, 1967

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"A sense of humor, patience, love and a bad memory."

20. Jan & Ellis, Married August 6,1969

Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera
Photo courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

"The secret is freedom within commitment. Don't go to sleep if you are angry with your partner without speaking out." - Jan

 "Patience." - Ellis

Weightman's series has exposed him to a varied set of admirers — both art lovers and hopeless romantics alike. "I'd encourage [other creatives] to continue with their own projects like this from time to time. It's really liberating and it can open up new commercial opportunities," he said. "I'd really like to use the mixed media process I've developed with these pictures to make portraits of whole families."

(H/T: HuffPost)

All photos courtesy of David Weightman / Married To My Camera

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