16 Ways To Get Over A Broken Heart. And Come Out Of It Even Stronger.

"No one succeeds at heartbreak."

Most people have felt the sorrowful pangs of lost love at one time or another. Sometimes, those pangs can be light, and other times, explosive. 

But no one describes the gut-wrenching feelings of loss after a break up better than poet Victoria Morgan. In a spoken word piece entitled "How to Succeed in Heartbreak," Morgan gives us a guide on how to survive the pain, with steps ranging from the hilarious, to the deep, to the plain realities of what it takes to pick yourself up.  

Morgan performed her poem on the stage for College Unions Poetry Slam Invitational 2015 in Virginia, but her performance can be seen on Button Poetry's Youtube channel.  (Scroll through article to view video.)

Her powerful words are transcribed below.

Remember: everyone can get over a broken heart — and be stronger for it.


1. "First, do nothing. Become one with your couch, eating whole stacks of Oreos, like leaning towers of feelings."

2. "Watch Jane Austin adaptations until your eyes become raisins. Relish in Colin Firth, emerging from the lake in a white shirt."  

3. "If you must do something, drink. But keep it classy. Put your cheap wine in a glass — you aren't a pirate."

4. "Talk to yourself, talk to yourself in the mirror, on public transportation, in the middle of the fountain at the mall!..."

"...because there are things you never got to say, and you don’t have to swallow them."

5. "Join Tinder. Make your profile picture a model, and talk to no one. Just keep swiping until you get carpal tunnel, that way you can reject 50 people a minute, and it feels like you're killing ants — with abs."

6. "Kiss as many people you need to get the stamp of his lips off of your brain." 

7. "Go to museums. Realize other things have history, too."

8. "Play hide-and-go-seek with your REM cycle, you're not sure what's worse — to wake up from the nightmares about your sides splitting open, or the dreams of him holding your jaw like it meant something to him. You might as well tape your eyes to your forehead, because at least you can lie to yourself while you're awake." 

9. "Stay up until 3, 3:30, 4, through tea with the bags under your eyes." 

10. "Write. Write until you lose every metaphor in your library. You start using the same one over and over because there’s only so many ways to describe being destroyed..."

...but once you get there, that's just the foundation." 

11. "Next, gather up all the chinks in your chain, fasten them together, make chain mail, and ride that b*tch into battle." 

12. "Take his name, the one that still hurts to say, and use it as a war cry." 

13. "Then actually cry, because there is nothing shameful about clearing your eyes." 

14. "Do not pick yourself up. Do not be OK. Because heartbreak is not about being OK. It’s about remembering that you were OK before."

15. "It's about saying f*ck OK — It's about taking all your broken pieces and building yourself a castle, because, I don't care who you are, you're a godd*mn queen."

16. "It’s about saying f*ck this poem. No one succeeds at heartbreak."

"I've built myself a throne room out of pizza boxes and empty Lunchables, and I can't stop crying into my Campbell's chicken noodle soup. But one day, I'll cry myself a fountain of youth. 

lets go back to the beginning

I'm tried of self-help tips, and friendly pick-me-ups.

i drank bottles and bottles, pretending their mouths belong to somebody else."

"But I'm done feeling sorry for myself, because why apologize for loving until you burst? My capacity to feel needs no pardon, my heart needs no mending. I am not broken! I'm just a little more... explosive."

See Victoria Morgan perform her incredible spoken word poem "How to Succeed in Heartbreak" below:

For more poetry, visit Button Poetry's Facebook. 

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