Woman Reminds Us The Size Of Your Ring Doesn't Represent The Size Of Your Love

"I know that my wedding ring is small. Friends and family often ask me when I'm going to have it 'upgraded.' "

Love is in the air. 

You've probably seen tons of wedding photos gracing your newsfeed this August, and may have even gone to some ceremonies yourself. And while big fabulous weddings and engagements are wonderful and worth celebrating, summer wedding season is also a time to be reminded that those material things typically associated with weddings don't have to symbolize the love shared between a couple. 

For example, an engagement ring may be a symbol for a couple's union, but the size of the rock doesn't represent the size of their love. And it certainly does not have to serve as a status symbol. 

This was made clear by Rachel Pedersen who defended her engagement ring in a Facebook post six months ago. She heard time and time again that her 1/4-carat ring should be traded in for something bigger. 

Revisiting her amazing response to her "ring critics" is the perfect reminder this month that a ring can be as big or small as the symbolism a couple chooses to ascribe to it. 

"I know that my wedding ring is small. Friends and family often ask me when I'm going to have it 'upgraded,' " she wrote. "After all, it doesn't represent the level of success we are achieving."


One person even told her she should have a bigger backup engagement ring to wear to important events to ensure people didn't get the impression she was unsuccessful. 

"Since when did the size of someone's ring become an indication of success?! For me, the ring is SO much more," Pedersen wrote. 

That ring may seem small to other people, but to her it represents something of great importance. Each time she looks at it on her finger, she's reminded of how she met her husband and the deep love they share. 

The pair fell in love after one night at a diner. "One short week later, and we professed our love to one another, him leading the conversation," she wrote. "We couldn't wait for the future. So we didn't. Thirteen days after meeting, we eloped. I didn't even THINK about a ring until my husband surprised me before the ceremony. He drained his savings to gift me with a small token of his love. I say small, only because it pales in comparison with how big his love is, even now, after years of marriage."  

We're not sure why anyone feels the need to ring shame in the first place, but we're glad Pedersen's post defending it went viral. Her post, just as relevant today as it was six months ago, has inspired many others to share photos of their rings in the comments and tag their significant others. 

It also serves as a reminder that all the things you find most valuable may not be worth much to others, but that doesn't make them any less special. Only you can truly understand what the tokens of love you possess mean to you. 

Whether you have a huge, impressive ring or a simple, small one, focusing on building a relationship and future together is so much more important than worrying about size. 

(H/T: Glamour


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