Mom's Hilarious Response To A Daycare That Suggested She Dress Her Baby More 'Girly'

“If someone calls my daughter a boy that’s fine, how should they know?”

When Jessica Rold went to pick up her 2-year-old son from daycare with her infant daughter in tow, she simply thought she was checking another task off her to-do list. However, when she arrived, some of the older teachers at the daycare expressed concern for the young girl. According to Steve Rold, Jessica's husband, the teachers suggested she dress her daughter "more like a girl."

As Steve told Babble, the staff suggested "putting bows in her hair so that the other kids would know that she was a girl when my wife was there with her to pick up our 2-year-old son."

However, the Danish parents weren't eager to heed this recommendation. While they weren't angry at the daycare teachers, Jessica opted to respond with an unexpected blend of humor and sarcasm by putting her art skills to good use. Jessica drew a bow on a Post-It Note and stuck it to her daughter's head. Steve then posted a photo of the baby to the r/daddit sub-Reddit thread.

"How my wife dressed our daughter the day after the teachers at daycare told her we should really be dressing her more like a girl," Steve wrote, highlighting just how ridiculous the suggestion truly was. (As anyone can see from the image below, this baby girl doesn't even have enough hair to support bows.)

While the teachers also suggested putting the young girl in dresses, the couple noted that much of what their daughter wears are hand-me-downs from her brother's closet. Steve said that they never bothered to find out the genders of their children ahead of time, so many of these pieces are gender-neutral items that were purchased long before they even knew the first kid was going to be a boy. Considering raising children can be rather expensive, this seems like an economic alternative.


"We weren't really offended at all," Steve clarified in his conversation with Babble's Karen Johnson. "If someone calls my daughter a boy that's fine, how should they know?"

Rold also told Johnson that, while their son often receives compliments about what a "fine, strong boy" he is, people typically only ever comment on how beautiful or sweet his daughter seems.

"We also get a lot more when it comes to suggestions on things we should be doing with her, which is funny because we really could have used that kind of information the first time around when we were really making it up as we went along" Steve explained. "But for whatever reason, it seems people feel more comfortable making suggestions for girls. Perhaps this is because they are trying to be protective or maybe its because of some a societal tenet that makes people feel they have a bit more dominion over girls, I couldn't say."

But, in the end, it doesn't matter what others suggest, as it's up to the Rolds how they want to raise their children, and there's nothing wrong with bucking conventional gender norms. As Kevin John Siazon writes for Today's Parent, "bravo to this couple for not caring what other people think and doing what works for them — and having a sense of humor about it. That being said, if you want to put bows on your daughter's head, by all means go ahead. It's your kid.  Just know that people will probably think your baby is cute regardless of their gender because ya know, babies are cute."

We couldn't agree more.

Cover image via u/steverold / Reddit

(H/T: Babble)

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