Mom's Honest Post Reminds People To 'Talk To The Woman, Not About Her'

"It was like she was put on this earth to amplify my insecurities."

We've all heard time and time again that you should never judge a book by its cover, but sometimes we could all use a little reminder. Mom blogger Constance Hall, who is known for her honest takes on motherhood, relationships, and body positivity, recently penned a post that gives us just that. 

On Facebook, Hall shared her impression of a fellow mom she often saw when she went to pick up her kids from school. 

"She drove a nice car, held her head high and always had a blow dry. She spoke in a posh accent, wore nice (nonstained) clothes and barely ever spoke to me," she wrote. Meanwhile, Hall would show up to the school breastfeeding, "smelling like dried milk," with messy hair, no shoes, and "a puffy face from a morning in tears." 

"It was like she was put on this earth to amplify my insecurities," she wrote. 

So, Hall turned to another mom to talk about this woman in an effort to make herself feel better. But the other mom wasn't interested in talking badly about this woman, so she gave Hall a reality check on her behavior. "Talk to the woman, not about her," she told Hall. 

So, one day she did. 

"I sat next to her," Hall wrote. "I found out she is an ex-addict and holds AA meetings to help out other addicted women that want sobriety, I found out she struggles with her marriage, her kids and her health just like the rest of us. I found out that she is a million things, snobby not being one of them. She is one of the most inspiring women I know." 

Hall was also surprised to learn that others may get the wrong impression from her based on assumptions, too. 

"Turns out I have a confident exterior too," she wrote. "Turns out that while sitting there hating my life without the confidence to talk to these gorgeous mums, they didn't have the confidence to talk to me. They thought I was too free, too relaxed, that I thought I was too cool." 

Now, that woman that once amplified Hall's insecurities has become one of her best friends all thanks to her decision to talk to her instead of about her. Now that's a valuable lesson we could all stand to learn. Fight the urge to judge or speak badly about someone and talk to them instead. Otherwise, you might never know what they could be going through. And, you could be missing out on making your next friend. 

Plus, wouldn't you want someone else to extend you the same courtesy? 

Cover image via Unsplash

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