Billie Lourd's Honest Comments To Ellen About Grief Touch On Feelings Many Can Relate To

"It's completely surreal."

It's been almost nine months since Carrie Fisher and her mother Debbie Reynolds passed away. This week, Fisher's daughter Billie Lourd stopped by The Ellen DeGeneres show to talk about her budding acting career, and share some honest and powerful words about how she's handling the deaths of her mother and grandmother.

DeGeneres called Fisher one of her favorite guests on the show, leading Lourd to joke, "She always takes over every talk show in this really aggressive way, so kudos to you."


The 25-year-old actress called Fisher and Reynolds "goddesses," and said that losing them was "completely surreal." She went on to share the complex question of how to express her grief.

"There's no way to really explain it. It's so hard to talk about," Lourd said. "If I say that I'm doing good, I'm too happy. If I say that I'm not doing good, then I'm a mess. So it's really hard to know what to say about it because it is just so surreal and impossible to deal with."

The feelings Lourd expressed are relatable not only to those in the public eye but to many who have lost loved ones. "Her comments really speak to a common issue- we've GOT to stop judging how people grieve," one BuzzFeed commenter wrote, earning more than 100 likes. "Coping with a significant loss is extremely hard, and the healing process is NOT linear. We might feel better one day, but unable to get outta bed the next. Everyone gets through it in different ways. Just be patient and supportive."

Lourd has been open about the experience of losing her Fisher and Reynolds in the months since their deaths. In addition to posting old photos on social media and presenting a tribute to Fisher at this year's Star Wars celebration, she's also spoken about how she's moving on and owning her individuality.

"I've always kind of lived in their shadows, and now is the first time in my life when I get to own my life and stand on my own," she told her American Horror Story co-star Sarah Paulson in Town & Country earlier this year. "I love being my mother's daughter, and it's something I always will be, but now I get to be just Billie."

The actress also told DeGeneres about how she got into the industry, sharing that her parents initially didn't want her to act, but after seeing how much she enjoyed her small part in Star Wars: The Force Awakens, Fisher encouraged her to pursue it. "If you're comfortable here, you should do this," Lourd said her mother told her. Not long after that, she was cast in Scream Queens, and the rest is history.

Watch Lourd's full interview with Ellen below:

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