'Love Is Love': Australian Woman Posts Emotional Message About LGBT Marriage Inequality In Australia


Lara Ryan's wife, Elise, gave birth to Skylar, their second daughter, in January. The same-sex couple from Sydney, Australia married in 2010.

In February, Ryan's world forever changed when Elise, who was walking their eldest daughter Ivy to daycare, was struck by a car and knocked to the ground.

"An old man got his accelerator confused with his brake, as far as we know," Ryan told BuzzFeed News. "He looked like he was slowing down for her and he sped up."

She rushed to Royal Prince Alfred Hospital to see Elise before she passed away the following day.


Despite some initial confusion over Ryan's relation to her wife Elise when she arrived at the hospital, Ryan told the Sydney Morning Herald that the staff and the police were "just amazing."

However, the tedious paperwork that Ryan had to fill out took a toll on her because of the laws affecting LGBT relationships in Australia.

The Australian Government does not officially recognize same-sex marriages, but does allow de facto partnerships where same-sex couples have the same rights. Still, the amount of red tape can be daunting with many forms that don't recognize their partnerships.

"I had spent the day on the phone to Centrelink, to my health insurance company, Medicare – just having to fill in ridiculous forms and boxes I couldn't tick," Ryan told BuzzFeed News.

"If marriage was available, I would have chosen to be married," Ryan told the Sydney Morning Herald. "She was not my de facto. She was my wife."

Later, a frustrated Ryan voiced her concerns to Facebook in a poetic post about the injustices that same-sex couples in Australia face.

"This is why," she wrote on Facebook. "Because having lost my partner in a horrible pedestrian accident this month I had to ask policemen if I was 'allowed' to write Spouse on incident reports. I had to cross out boxes for husband on the death certificate and boxes for father on our new baby's birth certificate (both on the same day). BUT the amount of freaking paper work I am having to do to secure mine and my children's future welfare is just ridiculous when all it would take is one marriage certificate. And most of all because I love her, and she has been my every day for ten years, She is the mother of our two girls, she is the future I dreamed of and she is my safe place to land. Because love is love and we should celebrate it and encourage it always. The world is harsh enough."

Her Facebook post quickly went viral.

Even following Elise's passing, she was still able to save at least nine people with the organs she donated — a donation made possible by her wife, who the hospital asked to make that decision for her.

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