9 Things To Do When You Spend Thanksgiving With Your Significant Other's Family

You'll be extra thankful for #6.

Spending the holiday season, from Thanksgiving and beyond, with your significant other is a great way to deepen your connection. As much fun as the festivities will be, they can also be pretty nerve-wracking, especially if you're meeting your S.O.'s family for the first time. 


Not to worry, these nine tips can help ensure your S.O.'s family is especially thankful you're sharing this special day with them:

1. Be yourself.

It might sound corny (especially with all the other food surrounding you), but that's because it's true — especially if you don't know your S.O.'s family that well, or at all. If you're feeling nervous, just remember: they'll like you for who you are because your S.O. does. 

2. Ask your S.O. to debrief you on family intel.

This may not be the most fun part of the trip, but it's the one that will most likely pay off in the long run. Have your S.O. give you the insider info on family names, relationships, and perhaps most importantly, topics to avoid around the dinner table. 

3. Bring a simple, but thoughtful, gift.

 While it may seem a bit old-fashioned, if there's any time to show your thanks for your S.O. family's hospitality, well, it's now. Opt for something stress-free that can add to the holiday festivities like a bottle of wine or an autumn-scented candle.

4. Be respectful of sleeping arrangements.

No matter what your current sleeping arrangements with your S.O. are, be respectful of their parents' wishes when staying in their home. After all, even though being asked to sleep separately may seem archaic and even silly, it's only for one or two nights.

5. Embrace their family traditions, especially when they differ from your own.

Every family celebrates Thanksgiving in their own way, and no matter how much your S.O.'s traditions may differ from yours, now's the time to go with the flow. And who knows? Your S.O.'s family traditions may be so fun, you'll end up taking them back to yours. 

6. Find some private time with your S.O.

Set aside a few minutes to check in with each other and make sure you're both having a good time. The holidays can be a stressful time, even for the most close-knit clans, so if you're not, what can you do for each other to improve things?

7. Be mindful of how much you drink.

No matter how much you and your S.O. do or don't regularly drink together, consider tracking how much you drink on Thanksgiving so you don't overdo it in front of your S.O.'s family. When in doubt, opt for a glass of water to keep yourself hydrated and your head clear. 

8. Lend a helping hand wherever and whenever you can.

Offer to bring food to the table or put dishes away whenever you can. While you might be told to sit down and relax, those small gestures, and the meaningful thoughts behind them, are sure to make your S.O.'s family thankful for you. 

9. Accept any and all leftovers.


Cover image via Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash

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