5-Year-Old Gives The Best Body Positive Response To The Peer Who Called Her 'Fat'

"Not a matter of weight, but of character."

Allison Kimmey is a self-described "international self-love author and speaker." She has amassed 151,000 Instagram followers thanks to her body positive posts. Her social media followers often feel inspired by her self-love posts, but Kimmey's message is also resonating with her 5-year-old daughter, Cambelle.

In a new Instagram post, Kimmey explains how the little girl responded to a peer who called her fat when they were at practice. Cambelle's body positive response highlights the importance of ending bullying and increasing compassion.


Kimmey writes that Cambelle recounted how her shirt came up at practice to reveal a bit of her tummy. The girl next to her looked at her and said her tummy was "fat."

Kimmey said she had an "immediate mama bear reaction," but instead wanted to know what Cambelle's response was. 

The 5-year-old explained, "I told her that I'm not fat, I HAVE fat. And that everybody has fat. And I told her it's OK to have fat."

The girl simply responded with an "OK," but Kimmey used the opportunity to tell Cambelle how brilliant her answer was. She told her daughter, "I am SO proud of you for the way you handled that situation. Fat is not a bad word, I don't think she was trying to hurt your feelings. It was so brave of you to help her understand that all people have fat, but that no one IS fat. And that it doesn't make you a bad person if you have more or less of it."

After the discussion, Cambelle then asked if Kimmey remembered the time she called her fat. Then she apologized to her mom for it.

Kimmey said that it was fine because she can now teach others about it and help change the world.

The body positive activist then used the opportunity to encourage others to adopt a more body positive attitude to prevent bullying. "Children aren't born with hate inside them. They learn words from their environments and the things they see/hear, and they try them on for size," she explained. "I can't prepare my daughter for all of life's situations, but I can help her to be a voice of compassion, humility, and love." 

She added, "And to anyone that will undoubtedly say that this is 'promoting obesity,' please understand that preventing childhood bullying before it can even start is not a matter of weight, but of character."

The post has received more than 17,000 likes in less than 24 hours.

Kimmey followed it up with a photo of herself and her daughter holding hands at the beach and an empowering message. She captioned it,

"Our limiting beliefs don't have to be the antagonist in our children's narrative ... instead we are here to give them the opportunity to write a story — their story — full of wonder, limitless creativity, and empowering strength. I can only do this by starring as the leading lady in my own life so that they know what a woman unaffected by fear and doubt looks like. Are you ready to be the role model they need? Just do you babes."

(H/T: Scary Mommy)

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