What's A-Parent

This Mother Penned A Honest Facebook Post About What Parenting Is Really Like

"Not once did I see an ad with a mom locked in her cupboard crying in her leaked, stained PJs from three days ago."

What's A-Parent is a series highlighting those who get real about the hardships that come with raising kids. These often untold stories help show parents they are not alone in their struggle, and are doing an amazing job.

Parenting isn't all picture-perfect playdates, frilly outfits, and relaxing evenings with a glass of wine, but social media platforms like Pinterest and Instagram might have you believing otherwise. 

But if perfect looking family vacay photos aren't representative of what it's all about, where are the people speaking publicly about the more overwhelming and difficult aspects of parenting? 

Look no further than Australian mom and Storms Sanctuary blogger Storm-Manea Ellyatt. In a candid Facebook post, this self-described "truth teller" airs some of her frustrations with parenthood, and it is so refreshing to read. 

A letter to my people ‪#‎nojudgementclub‬ It feels like a sick joke you never quite understood until this moment. All those cute bonds ads, miniature Nike shoes, adorable baby shower gifts, baby spam on instagram, squad dates with your mum posse and those [G]od damn laceylaners lied to me. Not once did I see an ad with a mum locked in her cupboard crying in her leaked stained pjs from 3 days ago, covered in sweat and vomit, praying to every god imaginable for the strength and patience to go back to the shitshow that is now their life. The once calm, poised, patient goddess, who could sling cocktials [sic], swear with sailors and dance uninhibited until tomorrow afternoon, can bearly [sic] hold a conversation, hold her eyes open or the tears back from this new found "bliss." And the irony, oh the irony that everyone hates it at one point or another but you have to remember that hating it out loud [sic] is a kick in the face to everyone that would give everything for a moment of "hating it." So you post the photo, you cliché the fuck out of your status because your hashtag loving it hashtag mumlife hashtag soblessed and when people ask you, you say with all the vigour of 2 hrs sleep "its honestly the most amazing thing that's ever happened to me," and when there's no cameras, no people and no judgement you let out the loudest FUUUCKKK YOOOOUUUU known to man, although it's under your breathe, or screamed into a pillow, or yelled from the foetal position of your cupboard because your little ones finally asleep. So we somehow pick our shattered self off the floor, trying to piece together a resemblance of a person and do it all again. Cheers all you amazing parents that dust yourselves off and do it again, with the smile of a thousand curse words, shattered souls and hopefully a strong coffee or wine in hand. Your my people x o x

Ellyatt isn't the only member of the #NoJudgementClub. After reading her post, many are expressing how they feel the same way. One Facebook commenter wrote, "You are beautiful and transparent and strong. People like you make motherhood a lot easier. I'm so thankful for this post. I'm right next to you [with a] topknot, snot-stained shirt, [and] wine in hand at 10 am." 

It can be exhausting being a parent, but it is even more exhausting trying to pretend that you have it together all the time, and that everything is always going well. Ellyatt recognizes that life is not 100 percent perfect and it will never be, and that's OK. In a world filled with people trying to create the illusion of easy family life, the #NoJudgementClub is a welcome place for parents to keep things real.

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