What's A-Parent

Jemima Kirke Strips Down While Talking About Motherhood And Her Insecurities In This Brutally Honest Interview

“I’m very insecure about my capabilities in a lot of areas ― one of them being parenting."

What's A-Parent is a series highlighting those who get real about the hardships that come with raising kids. These often untold stories help show parents they are not alone in their struggle, and are doing an amazing job.

Jemima Kirke gave a brutally honest interview about her experience acting in HBO's Girls, motherhood, and the internal struggles she battles each day. 

The interview was for YouTube channel StyleLikeU's What's Underneath Project, a project where people strip down to their underwear, while opening up about about their personal lives, self-image, and identity. The series aims to prove that style isn't solely about what you wear, but also who you are. 

Kirke spoke candidly about her work on Girls, and how people often falsely assume she's exactly like Jessa, the carefree character she portrays on the show. 

"One of the reasons I was hired for Girls was because of a persona that I have, and some sort of brightness they wanted in the show. It wasn't an ability I had. That made me both feel shitty about myself, and gave me a big ego," she said. 

Kirke continued to speak about some of her neuroses and even shared why she cut her long tresses into a bob. "I was having a terrible moment with my husband in our relationship, and I was extremely hurt by him and extremely angry at him and so I was feeling self-destructive. But for whatever reason I didn't do anything self-destructive, really. I just cut my hair," she explained.

But the rawest moment of the 13-minute interview came around the 5:30 mark. The producers asked her to share an insecurity she has overcome or is still working to overcome. Her answer? Parenting. 

"I'm very insecure about my capabilities in a lot of areas ― one of them being parenting," she replied. "I was not ready to have a baby, and I really was not thinking about what I was doing. I was doing it almost in the same way as getting a haircut or getting a tattoo."

Kirke gave birth to her daughter, Rafella Israel Mosberg, in 2010 when she 25 years old. She and her husband Michael Mosberg welcomed a second child, a son, two years later.

"To a lot of people, it looked like I was getting my life together. The guilt hit me the second she came out of me. I was her mother. I realized, I was like, 'Oh my god, what did I just do?' I just released a suffering person, you know? And they're just gonna give me a baby," she said, as tears welled up in her eyes. "They should really like, have more of a screening for people at the hospital before they give the baby to you."

She continued to explain how it felt unfair to Rafella that she was still going through her 20s while her daughter was a growing toddler. "I wasn't ready to stay home every night," she said. "And I didn't have the patience because I still had a lot of self-centeredness."

Kirke's straightforward response is not one that's commonly outspoken by young mothers, but it may just be one that some women need to hear. 

In general, this interview hit home with many women. The comments on YouTube are filled with positivity that prove it. "I was excited to watch this video, but had no idea how much I really needed it," one woman wrote. 

"I relate to everything she said so entirely," another woman commented.  

"I admire her raw honesty and humility about marriage and motherhood. She is way too hard on herself," another wrote.