38-year-old designer Yvonne Lin was all the way up into the eighth month of her second pregnancy before a man finally had the courtesy to offer her his seat on the New York City subway. This act of simple courtesy earned the gentleman who surrendered said seat a prize: a bronze Hulk trophy with a plaque that reads:
#1 DECENT DUDE
First Man to Offer Subway Seat
to Pregnant Woman
throughout Two Pregnancies.
According to DNA Info, Lin had noticed that, during her first pregnancy, not a single man offered her his seat during her subway commute to and from her upper Manhattan home on the A line, although lots of women were happy to stand for her. "I was getting no seats from men," she told DNA Info, "if I finally get a seat from a guy then I have to celebrate this some way and make sure he knows he's appreciated." She told the site that during the third trimester of her first pregnancy she carried a small thank you card... but never had the opportunity to give it to a man.
When she began expecting her second child, she upped the ante and started carrying around the Hulk statuette.
It took one baby and another 8 months, but one noble gentlemen – an unidentified father of two who happened to glance up from his phone to see the very pregnant Lin standing there – finally earned the prize last month.
"He looked up at me and looked super startled and embarrassed," Lin told DNA Info, "and he immediately stood up and said, 'Please take this seat, I just noticed.'"
The New York City MTA specifically encourages straphangers to offer their seats to the elderly, disabled, and pregnant as part of their system-wide "Courtesy Counts" campaign, but it is left to the conscience of the commuter to decide whether or not he or she will surrender a seat.
We at A Plus encourage the able-bodied – particularly gentlemen, as that happens to be part of how this author and his colleagues were raised – to surrender their seats to the following... simply as a matter of courtesy and nothing more. And yes, we do abide by these rules ourselves: it looks like musical chairs when the A Plus staff gets on a train.
• Pregnant women
• Women in heels
• People with lots of groceries
• Anyone with a small child
• Small children
• Families trying to stay together who would benefit from your seat
• Anyone with a disability
• Anyone with a cane, walker, or similar device
• The elderly
• And anyone who looks more tired than you do.
Today it's them... tomorrow it's you.
No, you don't get a trophy. It's the simplest act of kindness and your parents would be proud of you. That's more than enough.
Cover image via Shutterstock / pisaphotography.
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