For the most part, people typically describe themselves as either introverts or extroverts. But what if you're somewhere in-between?
Extroverts are usually known as the "life of the party," the social butterfly who can't get enough of interaction. These folks have no problem expressing themselves openly and loudly. Introverts, on the other hand, are more low-key. Generally speaking, they prefer a quiet night in alone or with a few close friends rather than going out to a big party. Where extroverts feel energized by socializing with a lot of people, introverts feel drained. If you identify with both personalities, you might be an ambivert.
Over the years, psychology research has found that there is a spectrum between introversion and extroversion. One study, conducted by researcher Adam Grant of The Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, highlights the medium and recognizes ambiverts as better salespeople. Published in the journal Psychological Science in 2013, the study claims ambiverts are great communicators because "they naturally engage in a flexible pattern of talking and listening."
Even if you have no interest in ever being a salesperson, it's worth acknowledging that aforementioned traits make for great relationships and a successful work life. Other advantages of being an ambivert include being able to adapt to most environments, having better decision-making skills (compared to extroverts, who often take risks, and introverts, who are often hesitant), and having a more balanced social life.
While introverts and extroverts may get all the attention with relatable comics and memes, the truth is most people are actually ambiverts. According to Barry Smith, professor emeritus and director of the Laboratories of Human Psychophysiology at the University of Maryland, "Ambiverts make up 68 percent of the population."
With that said, we're giving ambiverts the shine they deserve. See the signs below to find out if you're an ambivert.
1. You’re not super social but you’re also not much of a loner.
Being an ambivert means you enjoy socializing and alone time. There are times you get super bored staying at home alone and there are times when you want nothing more than solitude. You also may find yourself going to big parties but only hanging out with a few people there. You don't mind being in a crowd but you still like to keep it low-key when you can.
2. You’re able to work independently and in a group.
You are confident in working solo or leading a team, yet you also have problem working on a team or taking directions. You're flexible. In a report by Fast Company, management consultant Linda Henman says most of the executives she works with are ambiverts. "These individuals have successfully learned to integrate the parts of their personalities that are like both introverts and extroverts," she says. "They can work alone, and often prefer to do so, but they also find interaction invigorating."
3. You’re comfortable in most spaces.
You fit in where you get in. Since you are a little extro and a little intro, you have no problem being in different environments. You can have as much fun at home sipping wine as you do bar-hopping with friends.
4. You can get along with almost anyone.
A lot of people gravitate toward you because of how easy you are to talk to. You have a knack for knowing when you speak and when to listen. According to Paulette Kouffman Sherman, PsyD,psychologist and author of The Book of Sacred Baths, "Taking on the qualities of both introverts and extroverts allows them to have enough time to think before they speak, which helps them avoid saying something irrational or impulsive, and are also able to speak their mind freely and share their ideas."
5. Some friends think you’re quiet, others think you’re the life of the party.
Because your personality is so flexible, you may even have different friend groups. Some friends may know the introvert side of you while others know you as a party animal. In any case, your friends love to be around you because you know how to make the best out of any occasion.
(H/T: Business Insider)
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