Paris Man Who Lost His Wife Has A Message For Terrorists

"You won't have my hatred."

In the wake of the Paris terrorist attacks that killed 127 people, people have had many different responses. Some have called for wars, others have called for patience, but one French man who lost his wife in the attack is refusing to give in to the hate.

With the power of Facebook, Antoine Leiris' heartbreaking message is being spread around the world. His original post appeared in French here, but you can read the translation below. "You won't have my hatred."


On Friday night you took the life of an exceptional being, the love of my life, the mother of my child, but you won't have my hatred.

I don't know who you are and I don't want to know; your souls are dead. If this "God" that you blindly kill for truly did make us in his image, every bullet in the body of my wife would have wounded his heart. And so no, I won't give you the gift of my hatred.

You've certainly sought it, but to respond to hatred with anger would be giving in to the same ignorance that made you the way you are. You want me to be afraid, you want me to look suspiciously at my fellow citizens, to give up my freedom for safety. Well you've lost. I will keep going.

I saw her this morning, finally, after days and nights of waiting. She was as beautiful as when she left home on Friday night, as beautiful as the night I fell hopelessly in love with her over 12 years ago.

Of course, I'm devastated by the pain, I'll cede this small victory, but it won't last forever. I know she'll be with us every day, and we'll be with her again in paradise as free souls that you could never touch.

There's two of us, me and my son, but we're stronger than all the world's armies. Actually, I've no more time for you, I've got to go and get Melvil who's waking up from his nap. Just 17 months old, he'll have his snack just like every day, and then we'll play just like every day, and this little boy will insult you with his happy carefree existence.

Because no, you will not have his hatred either.

Leiris' post was translated by Paris resident Niamh Cloughley. You can read more about her experience after the attacks on her blog

Cover image via Jeff J Mitchell/Getty Images.