Miscarriages are a subject that aren't discussed as openly as they should be. Some people do not know whether they should even bring it up with those who have experienced one. And if they want to, they often don't know how to do it. That often leaves those affected to deal with the loss quietly by themselves.
Joan Bremer is encouraging a dialogue about the not-talked-about-enough subject. The 31-year-old California woman suffered a miscarriage seven weeks into her pregnancy. During her three-day recovery, Bremer explained to TODAY Parents that she decided to get a tattoo to commemorate the event,
"For me, all the tattoos I have signify something, and even though this was a painful time, I still wanted to be able to remember it in some way."
Bremer opted for a cursive tattoo of a pregnant woman featuring two hearts. After getting inked, Bremer uploaded a photo of her tattoo to Imgur with the caption, "I had a miscarriage two weeks ago...and I got this to remember the baby that wasn't meant to be."
The response to Bremer's post has been staggering and it is now going viral. Commenters are expressing their condolences, but they are also thanking her for sharing her experience because they can relate to it. One user wrote, "I know exactly how you feel. I was nine weeks pregnant when I had my miscarriage. I will never forget my baby, but I know that there was a problem with the pregnancy, and that it was just preparing me for actual parenthood. Stay strong!"
Bremer explained to TODAY Parents how it was a cathartic experience to post her photo, and that she hopes it will create more of a discussion on the subject,
"This is so incredibly common, but it's not a subject that people want to talk. It happened to us, and it's happened to countless other people. I want to be able to share and talk about it, and in talking about it move on from the pain and disappointment."
Many do not realize how common miscarriages are because it is something that isn't discussed. With people like Bremer and Mark Zuckerberg sharing their poignant stories, it helps others in similar situations.
Furthermore, it helps the person telling their story just as much.