After A Boy With Autism Shouted During A Broadway Show, This Actor Came To His Defense

"And no, I don't care how much you spent on the tickets."

Any parent can testify that it isn't always easy bringing children out to public performances where good behavior is expected. For parents of children with autism, situations can go awry quickly and without warning, and it can be difficult for the parents to regain control. While dealing with an upset child is bad enough, the stares and murmurs from strangers only make it worse.

At a recent showing of The King And I on Broadway, such a scenario occurred.

During an intense, emotional scene, a child with autism became upset. Though the mother was trying to calm the child, other members of the audience began murmuring critical comments and complaining that the child should not have been there.

Kelvin Moon Loh, who was acting on stage when all of this went down, was acutely aware of the situation and became upset for a different reason.

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He was upset that the other audience members were so quick to forget their basic sense of decency when this mother was obviously struggling. 

Yes, there is a certain level of decorum expected at the theatre, but there are extenuating circumstances, as was the case here. The desire to see a good show should never trump the reality that compassion and empathy can solve more problems than snide remarks and sideways glances.

After the show, he took to Facebook to air his frustration at the treatment of this mother.

The post reads:

I am angry and sad.

Just got off stage from today's matinee and yes, something happened. Someone brought their autistic child to the theater.

That being said- this post won't go the way you think it will.

You think I will admonish that mother for bringing a child who yelped during a quiet moment in the show. You think I will herald an audience that yelled at this mother for bringing their child to the theater. You think that I will have sympathy for my own company whose performances were disturbed from a foreign sound coming from in front of them.


Instead, I ask you- when did we as theater people, performers and audience members become so concerned with our own experience that we lose compassion for others?

The theater to me has always been a way to examine/dissect the human experience and present it back to ourselves. Today, something very real was happening in the seats and, yes, it interrupted the fantasy that was supposed to be this matinee but ultimately theater is created to bring people together, not just for entertainment, but to enhance our lives when we walk out the door again.

It so happened that during "the whipping scene", a rather intense moment in the second act, a child was heard yelping in the audience. It sounded like terror. Not more than one week earlier, during the same scene, a young girl in the front row- seemingly not autistic screamed and cried loudly and no one said anything then. How is this any different?

His voice pierced the theater. The audience started to rally against the mother and her child to be removed. I heard murmurs of "why would you bring a child like that to the theater?". This is wrong. Plainly wrong.

Because what you didn't see was a mother desperately trying to do just that. But her son was not compliant. What they didn't see was a mother desperately pleading with her child as he gripped the railing refusing- yelping more out of defiance. I could not look away. I wanted to scream and stop the show and say- "EVERYONE RELAX. SHE IS TRYING. CAN YOU NOT SEE THAT SHE IS TRYING???!!!!" I will gladly do the entire performance over again. Refund any ticket because-

For her to bring her child to the theater is brave. You don't know what her life is like. Perhaps, they have great days where he can sit still and not make much noise because this is a rare occurrence. Perhaps she chooses to no longer live in fear, and refuses to compromise the experience of her child. Maybe she scouted the aisle seat for a very popular show in case such an episode would occur. She paid the same price to see the show as you did for her family. Her plan, as was yours, was to have an enjoyable afternoon at the theater and slowly her worst fears came true.

I leave you with this- Shows that have special performances for autistic audiences should be commended for their efforts to make theater inclusive for all audiences. I believe like Joseph Papp that theater is created for all people. I stand by that and also for once, I am in a show that is completely FAMILY FRIENDLY. The King and I on Broadway is just that- FAMILY FRIENDLY- and that means entire families- with disabilities or not. Not only for special performances but for all performances. A night at the theater is special on any night you get to go.

And no, I don't care how much you spent on the tickets.

And that, friends, is how you stand up for what is right.

Want to see this amazing actor in action? Check out The King And I on Broadway!