Emma Murphy, a 26-year-old woman and mother of two living in Dublin, Ireland, thought long and hard before posting a video discussing how her partner, and father of her children, physically abused her. In a harrowing Facebook video that has since gone viral after posting, Murphy explains her alleged story from start to finish — how her partner cheated, how he punched her when she confronted him and why she didn't leave (she doesn't name him) — with hopes that her story will help empower other victims to leave. And know they're not alone.
Domestic violence has always been a hot button issue, but recent events — namely the Ray Rice incident, in which the former NFL played was caught on video punching his now-wife, Janay Rice, in an elevator — have rightly brought the issue into the limelight. But things get murky when treading into the victims' territory.
Like people did when Rice's wife stayed with him, many question the woman (or man, because men are abused, too) for sticking around. What they don't know is that victims of domestic abuse, mental or physical, are heavily manipulated. They stay for love, they stay because they are told they are deserving of the abuse and they stay because of shame — among countless other reasons.
Murphy hopes that by telling her story, more women will feel empowered to leave, and others will judge less.
"I thought long and hard before posting this video, this is very difficult for me but I have to do what is RIGHT," she wrote. "If you or anyone you know has it is in a similar situation please share this video to inspire other women around the world, violence is NOT the answer!!!!"
Here's a bit of her story:
"I was in a relationship for 3 and a half years with a guy who is the love of my life, who was the love of my life. I found out last year he cheated on me."
"I loved him so much, I tried to forgive and I took him back. But unfortunately I found out he did it again... When I threw his phone, he punched me in the face."
"It wasn't the first time it happened. Last year he split my head open."
"Only now do I have the courage to walk away... Even once it's unacceptable. But to be made feel it is acceptable is even worse. No man should do that to any woman."
"If anyone out there is going through something similar to what I went through, you need to find the courage... go to people that love and care about you."
Since posting the video has been shared over 55,000 times and has over 3,000,000 views.
With nearly a third of U.S. women having experienced domestic violence, it's no surprise the raw, truthful video resonates.
Murphy knew it was time to speak up and speak out.
Watch her full video below:
If you or someone you know is experiencing emotional or physical violence, call The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.