9 Important Questions To Ask When Considering A Threesome

Three isn't always better.

Your significant other has just agreed to have a threesome with you, which sounds excellent but is really not. Every fantasy you've ever had about a threesome is pretty much inaccurate. In order to have a totally awesome threesome, you need to plan ahead. Refinery29 just released an infographic about important questions to ask before a threesome and we are adding more vital questions.

Here are nine things to consider before having a threesome that will make it everything you've ever wanted:

1. What are the best positions?

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When you're dealing with three people, certain "traditional" positions may not work out. Therefore, you have to use realistic positions that are appropriate for the number of participants. This major aspect needs to be planned out way before the actual action begins.

2. Who wants to have the threesome: you or your partner?

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Even if you say that you want a threesome, does it really mean that you are OK with it or are you just doing a favor for your significant other? You both should agree that a threesome is a good thing before signing up for one.

3. What will the impact be on your current relationship?

Ummmm... Threesome???

Threesomes, even when wanted, will impact your current relationship with your partner. The question is if it will be a positive or negative impact. While it could potentially help a relationship, there could also be unwanted awkwardness and tension.

4. Did you discuss the expectations and boundaries?

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This is the most important step of the entire process. If you avoid discussing these vital items, the entire threesome could be a failure. You and your partner should agree on what is expected and what the gender of the third participant will be. It is also appropriate to discuss details regarding kissing and touching.

5. What safe-sex methods are you using?

Threesomes complicate safe sex and thus need to be planned out before it happens. The best thing to do is to make sure all participants are practicing safe sex and that might include different color condoms for different participants.

6. What safe words are being used?

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Even if you don't normally use them when it's just you and your partner, safe words are almost vital in a threesome. Exactly what the safe words should be depends on the participants, but there are some weird ones people have used.

7. What is the order of the big "O"?

To make sure that everyone is still involved throughout the process, it might work out better if the timing of the orgasms for all participants occur near each other. More importantly, it is recommended that the final "O" should be with your significant other.

8. Did you agree on the third participant?

Mrw I'm in a threesome and I'm told to play with both pairs of boobs at once

If you didn't agree on a third participant, then you will run into problems. Avoid choosing close friends as the third member. Dating websites and dance clubs are popular places to locate a third person.

9. Where and when will it take place?

This one time, at band camp, i had a all girl threesome.

Finalize and agree on a location and date before proceeding. It should not be spontaneous and it would work best if it is all planned.

(H/T: Refinery29)