A recent Reddit thread had one simple ask: "Gay Men of Reddit, what advice do you have for Straight Men of Reddit?"
In response to the question came an outpouring of really interesting, insightful and sometimes hilarious advice from the Reddit community. Below, we've compiled a list of some of our favorites.
Warning: some of the content below involves adult content.
"Do not assume all gay/bi men are interested in you."
This wonderful bit of advice came from the user JonSnowInTheTardis, and it's a good one for straight men to remember: being gay and be interested are not the same. The same user also added two other bits of advice we really liked:
Athletic clothes are not appropriate for all occasions, dress up once in a while
If a gay guy can come out and risk being shot down by society, you can tell the girl you like how you feel and risk being shot down by one person
"As long as a gay friend isn't crushing on you, we're really good at helping you figure out if a girl is right for you...
...or if you're just blinded by p****. We have a special ability with hot women called, "You have no power here!" and we find out very quickly which ones become hell to deal with if they can't wrap you around their finger. Our opinion also isn't shaded by female politics as a female friend's can be.
I saw so many friends in college chase after girls that were completely wrong for them, just because of their looks. Gay men totally do the same thing when it comes to other men, so we can use your help as a filter as well." — BrobearBerbil
"Start saving for retirement early. A properly managed portfolio can save you a ton of hassle years down the line."
"As a gay man, I just want to say that it's ok to express your emotions."
"I cannot tell you how many times my brother's girlfriend would come up to me going, 'Did I do something wrong!? He's so... quiet lately!' and me replying, "Nah, he had a bad day at work and is a bit stressed."
It's also ok to discuss your feelings and may even help your relationship with a significant other.
Too many men today put their feelings in an air tight container and end up losing part of themselves, yet feel it's the right course of action to preserve their machismo." — Cananbaum
"Try to stop worrying too much when interacting with women you fancy."
"I've known a fair few of my straight friends incapable of flirting with women, whereas I've had to turn down the same women without even realising I was seeming flirtatious because I was just talking to them as I would anyone else without any agenda." — Birtyboy
"We can be friends."
"I have lots of straight guy friends but some guys are so afraid to befriend me. Just cause a guy is gay doesn't mean he is interested. If I want to get laid I would sooner check Grindr than hit on a straight guy." — mattie4fun
"Don't treat your gay friends any differently than any of your other friends."
"If you're physically affectionate with your other friends but actively avoid doing so with your gay friend, we notice. If you have no trouble walking into a public bathroom with your other friends, but wait until your gay friend is done before going in, we notice.
At least for myself, I'm just another one of the guys when it comes to my friends. I would never make a move on them even if I find them to be attractive. My friendship is not ruining over something like that.
I've been fortunate with the vast majority of my friends that they don't treat me differently. But there are a couple that do and it kind of sucks." — thegreatpablo