I Asked 5 People The Best Way To Meet People Offline. Here's What They Said.

"I was teaching English at a primary school in Ghana when I met my partner."

Through our online dating experiences so far, many of us have been ghosted, thrown below the belt chat up lines (in some cases, quite literally), and have spent so much time communicating online, that often meeting people in reality is a long shot. Sigh. 

Some industry experts suggest it may be time to turn off the dating apps, and put our social skills to the test. Dr. Kathrine Bejanyan — a relationship counselor and consultant at an exclusive dating agency for professionals in London, The Executive Club of St. James's — agrees. 

"Getting out in the real world and meeting people will improve so much more than your love life" says Ms Bejanyan. "It can improve your general happiness, as too much time on our smartphones can damage our mental health and can turn into a dangerous addiction ... Whether it's a singles event, a new hobby, or a dating agency, finding new ways to meet people in the real world will be so much more beneficial than you can ever imagine." 

To find out how some people are getting around dating apps, I talked to five people who met their S.O.s offline. 



1. Through a Friend

"Meeting a partner through a friend is the best way to establish a date because you already have common ground with one another.  I met my partner through one of my really good friends. I'd recently split with my previous boyfriend so, therefore, was at a loose end. I started going out on a more regular basis with her circle of friends. We got chatting and the rest is history."

-Debbie Filan, 28. 

2. Corporate

"I started dating my co-worker who sat across from me in the office. We both started at the same time, so we used to leverage this to talk to one another over the office chat system every day. As time progressed, we started to meet for lunch and talk more outside of work. We realized we had so much in common which simply started from a friendship without really trying"

- Lewis Henderson, 23

3. Coincidence

" ... I'm a firm believer that one day you'll just bump into someone and that will be it … I was riding my horse down the road one day and fell off, a man in his car got out and helped me up, we exchanged numbers and a couple of weeks later we went to the zoo, because it was just as random as we met…" 

- Aysha Neal, 22

4. Volunteering Abroad

 "Volunteering abroad is the best way to meet likeminded people, as they are going through the same experience as you are, and getting to know others is your lifeline. I was teaching English at a primary school in Ghana when I met my partner. We were talking every day at school and both teaching the same subject. I remember thinking that he was so friendly and such a good guy."

- Rosie Sedgwick, 30. 



5. Team Sports

"I was part of a social volleyball team whilst I was working in Bermuda for three years. We needed a mixed team to enter the league, and we couldn't find many female players. We were on the beach practicing one day and there was this girl who sat near to the court, drinking a beer with her friend. I approached her to ask whether she wouldn't mind playing, and she was keen to chip in. We played four games and won all of them. Afterwards, we went to the pub to celebrate, we started seeing each other on a more regular basis and a few years later decided to move back to the U.K. together."

 – David Marr, 33

Cover image via Unsplash

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