There is no one right way to raise children. Let's just get that out there right now.
But parents such as Australian blogger Constance Hall know the Internet is full of unsolicited advice on the do's and don'ts. Being bombarded by all the opinions can be overwhelming and the backlash is real when people don't conform to parenting style trends.
In response to the "mom-shaming," Hall wrote a Facebook post calling out all the ways she and others may have felt judged. She then turns that judgment into a salute to mothers just trying to keep it real.
Because being a parent is hard enough and we don't need each other to make things even more difficult. Every family is different, so let's stop the shaming, and know that sometimes just keeping sane every now and then is enough.
In her Facebook post, Hall writes:
"To the woman at the park, looking at her phone, ignoring her children, I salute you. For not giving into the public perception that you should be switched on, 24 hours a day."
"For giving no f*cks about what 'constable mother's group' thinks.
To the woman with piles of dishes and washing who walks straight out the door for a coffee at her friends,
I salute you.
Being a good mum or wife or human does NOT mean spending eternity cleaning your house. If you leave them for long enough your friends will start doing them. Trust me."
"To the woman at the doctors' surgery, waiting patiently to request some antidepressants, I salute you."
"Post natal depression is a rude little c*nt. You are still coping, do not confuse depression for not coping, you've taken action, you look like a coping queen to me.
Too often strength and weakness are confused, strength is asking for help.
You are so strong.
So many women are going through the exact same thing, they just don't talk about it.
To the woman who didn't lose all of that baby weight,
I salute you.
A brand new 24-hour job that doesn't pay and won't end for around 20 years is NOT a good time to give up cake. Eat the cake, eat the whole f*cking cake and f*ck off anyone who dares to say anything. Your post-baby-body is not all the sudden free for public commentary.