Anyone who has tried a dating app knows that while they have some benefits, they also have a number of negative aspects, particularly for young women. Unfortunately, hearing stories of sexual harassment and other bad experiences with dating apps is a fairly common occurrence. What is changing is that women are calling out abusive users and schooling them on proper dating etiquette, as well as manners in general.
Dating app Bumble is helping to take things a step further. The app, which requires women to make the first move, recently penned an open letter to a misogynistic user.
The letter was prompted when a Bumble user named Ashley reported abuse from a male user called Connor. After she asked him what he did for a living, Connor became irritated and went on a rant about "gold-digging whores" and "neo-liberal, Beyonce, feminist cancer."
These are the screenshots taken from Ashley and Connor's conversation:
After Bumble was alerted, the company wrote a powerful response to Connor on the Bumble Blog.
Bumble wrote about how Ashley was simply making small talk because she viewed Connor as an equal:
"Ashley was (wait for it, Connor, because this is where things really get interesting), viewing herself as an equal. It might sound crazy, but people connect over the basic routines of life. You know … the weather, working out, grabbing a drink, eating, and working."
The letter makes more powerful points about equality and Bumble adds, "We hope that the hate and resentment welling up inside of you will subside and you'll be able to engage in everyday conversations with women without being cowardice to their power."
The dating app finishes by saying until that time, Connor has been blocked. Bumble also signed the letter with the hashtags #ImWithAshley and #LaterConnor.
While it sometimes seems like anyone can get away with almost anything on dating apps, Refinery29 points out that Bumble has a firm zero-tolerance policy against content which is "abusive, insulting or threatening, or which promotes or encourages racism, sexism, hatred or bigotry."
Bumble's decision to block Connor and pen such a powerful letter proves the app has users' backs, just like a real-life friend does for you against awful potential suitors.
Check out the Bumble Blog to read the full open letter.