This Woman Refused To Let A Personal Trainer Convince Her She Didn't Look Good Enough For Her Wedding

"I know I'll look my best because I'll be so happy I'll get to marry the man I love!"

Most people want to look their best on their wedding days because they're the center of attention and they'll be looking at those photos for decades to come. Some men and women choose to change up their lifestyles leading up to their big day by altering their diets and workout regimens. While others would rather forgo these changes, many people feel pressure to lose weight before their wedding. 

Recently, one woman showed what this pressure can look like and reminded people that they don't have to give in to it. Cassie Young, a newly engaged, Atlanta-based social media director for a nationally syndicated radio show, received an unsolicited message from a personal trainer on Twitter. 

"Congratulations on your engagement. Hire me to get you in shape for your wedding. I charge 75 dollars an hour and I'm worth every penny," he wrote. 



Young kindly thanked him for the offer, but said she was already in shape. She made it clear that she wasn't interested and yet this stranger decided he knew better. 

"I know you want to look your best on wedding day. If you don't hire me hire someone. Those pictures lasts centuries. Your children's children's children will still have those pictures. You want your best you," he wrote back. 

But Young still wasn't having it. "I know I'll look my best because I'll be so happy I'll get to marry the man I love! I know it's probably hard for you to understand this, but it's taken me a long time to love my body," she replied. "Health is one thing, and it's something I'm working hardcore on. But the idea of me being embarrassed by my wedding pictures because I might be 'fat' in them and people centuries from now will be ridiculing me? That's the insinuation and I say fuck that noise!"

Sadly, this guy continued to try to tell her she should feel ashamed by her body. But Young wasn't having it. She continued to clap back at his close-minded view of beauty and took screen shots to social media. She posted the conversation on Facebook and reminded others not to let other people tell them what beauty is. 

"I'm posting this because I want every woman and man to know that it does not MATTER what you look like," she wrote. "You are worthy. Love is out there for you. Life is waiting with open arms. It doesn't matter if you're skinny or fat or between the two or willowy or broad shouldered or peer shaped or like a board or anything in between. You get good stuff in life by being YOU. That's what matters." 

Young goes on to say that being skinny doesn't mean you "win" at life. If that's the game, she refuses to play. 

"Your inner-value and self-worth comes from YOU, not what you look like. Who gives a f**k if you got a few extra pounds. Or ten. Or twenty. Thirty. Whatever. If you are happy and healthy, that's ALL that matters. Those pounds DO 👏NOT 👏DEFINE 👏YOU 👏OR 👏YOUR 👏WORTH. Don't let people like this try to convince you otherwise because they'll try - but it's because they don't understand yet," she wrote. "Life is waiting for you. It's too short to be spent worrying about a belly roll. Go be happy and live it to your fullest."

Amen.

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