On the surface, relationships are seemingly straight-forward. You spend time together, you seem to agree on everything, you take delight in finding all of the little quirks and habits in your partner, and you're constantly finding more and more things about them that seem just perfect for you.
After awhile, though, you start realizing they're human, and it's usually at about the same time they realize you're human, too. It's one thing to fall in love with someone. It's something quite different to keep loving someone, especially in the face of day-to-day drudgeries like bills and dirty dishes that fall outside the blissful scope of the dating phase.
A recent post on Reddit asked people what the best relationship advice they ever got was. We're sharing some of the best responses.
1. Use time to your advantage.
"When you're going down the pub with your mates and you expect to be back around 11 tell her you'll be back at around 12.
So when you roll in the door at 11 you can claim you left early to see her before you both went to bed."
2. Keep dating each other.
"On our wedding night, I told my wife that we now had a 2/2/2 rule. It goes like this:
Every 2 weeks, we go out for the evening.
Every 2 months, we go out for the weekend.
Every 2 years, we go out for a week.
We've stuck to it, and it really has made things awesome. We got married in August and people still ask how long our honeymoon phase will last. I think it'll last as long as we stick to our 2's."
3. Know when it's time to let go.
"Love, sadly, isn't always enough. My ex and I will love each other forever. We were/are soulmates, but we were so toxic together. We loved each other enough to say goodbye. He'll be in my life forever in a capacity that is healthy for both of us."
— (deleted account)
4. Don't give TOO much.
"You're not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm."
5. But also, learn to share.
" 'Marry someone with a different favorite cereal than you so they won't eat all of yours.'
You'd be amazed how much more peaceful life is this way."
6. Accept change and be flexible.
"If people can change, then that change is ongoing. Marriage is a beautiful thing that allows two people the time and space to safely fall in and out of love many, many times. Your wife could again become sexual just as easily as a new woman could become cold. I would plead with you to tend your own garden and be patient in its fruits. Paths that have intersected in the past are all the more likely to cross again soon."
7. Reject the princess paradigm.
"Don't look for a girl you want to treat like a princess, look for a girl you want to treat like a partner.
It's very true. I don't mind carrying my S.O., but I need to know she can carry me if I feel down."
8. They can't all be "the one."
"That just because a person is right or perfect for you that you may not be the right one for them."
9. Fight the problem, not the person.
"...always fight the problem, not the other person. If you keep this in mind when arguing, you'll be able to actually resolve the issue than be mad at each other."
"No relationship is perfect and there will be conflict. What matters is the desire to solve the problem."
A Plus readers, what's the best relationship advice you've ever received? Let us know in the comments.