6 Things Couples Learn When Buying A New Home

There's no place like home, especially when it's yours.

Nothing feels quite like the thrill of having a blank canvas to furnish, the exploration of every nook and cranny, and the joy in outfitting each room just how you imagine. 

When you and your partner decide to buy a new home together, it's a big and exciting step in 'adulting.' Unlike renting an apartment for a month or a year at a time, buying a home is often a long-term commitment.

As with every new adventure, you might feel overwhelmed by the different decisions that could potentially lead to your dream home. Even if the road gets bumpy and you stumble along the way, you're sure to learn several important lessons that will ultimately help you make the right choice. 

Here are six things you and your partner will learn when buying a new home:  

1. Just like the walls of your new home, you learn what your relationship is really made of.

While it might've been easy committing to each other, it may be more challenging to commit to a new home together. While the end goal is to live happily ever after, the house-buying process probably won't feel anything like a fairytale. That means you and your partner will most likely be spending long hours (think of it as extra quality time) discussing your housing likes and dislikes, negotiating compromises, and making a final decision. 

You both should create a personal "must-have" list and a "nice-to-have" list. Then, review and compare each of your individual preferences together. Finally, make a new, joint list of "must-have" and "nice-to-have" items you can check off when you actually go house hunting. 

Though the house-buying process can be intensive, and you might get caught up in all the excitement, it's important to remember these discussions must be nuanced and thoughtful. Purchasing a new home can provide immediate satisfaction, but over-splurging due to miscommunication may introduce an unwelcome reality down the road.

No matter what relationship stage you and your significant other happen to be in, you'll hopefully learn your partnership is as strong as the foundation of your future home. 

2. Your new home is so much more than just a "house."

When choosing a new home, the physical attributes like style, number of rooms, and location are important, but they won't make a house feel like home. By looking at several options with similar exterior characteristics, you'll learn that making a final decision is a surprisingly emotional one. 

While size, location, and price have to fit your needs, you should also take some time for self-reflection and exploration of your inner-thoughts before you and your partner make this life-changing decision. Ask yourself some sensitive questions: Will I be happy here? Can I picture my family creating treasured memories in five, ten, twenty or even more years? Most importantly, do I feel "at home"? If the answer is yes, you already are. 

Once you've assessed both the rational benefits and emotional appeals, you should feel confident in your consideration and know you're ready to make a purchase. 

3. It’s all about patience, patience, patience.

Many people know realty is all about "location, location, location." However, when it comes to buying a new home, even more learn the importance of "patience, patience, patience," too. You'll need a lot of it as you begin the multi-step process of searching online or in the newspaper. Once you've found some possibilities, it's time to get off the couch and into some open houses. Actually seeing a house in person is the only way to get the first-hand, immersive experience of a potential home, which you'll definitely need to make an informed decision. 

No matter how many weekends you spend house hunting and how frustrated you may feel, just remember, the perfect house is out there. Patience is the only way to find it. Once you've chosen your new home, you'll still need patience as you negotiate price because you don't want to seem overeager when making an offer. 

Even after you've moved into your new home, you'll still have to be patient with the redecorating, remodeling, and reorganizing. Organization is especially important in a new garage because many people are so exhausted by the moving process, they often pile up miscellaneous items in there. Before you know it, the garage is a disaster. While it still may take a lot of patience to organize all of your belongings, Gladiator GarageWorks can speed the process along and help you avoid another house-related headache. 

Many new homeowners are now outfitting their garage with organization solutions before they even move in, as it helps prevent the empty space from becoming a catch-all for random odds and ends that didn't make it into the home. Installing Gladiator GearWall® Panels and outfitting the garage with storage can help you create the perfect space for anything you need, whether starting small or finding extra room to grow over time.

If nothing else, all the patience you've acquired during the home-buying and move-in process will certainly come in handy the next time you're waiting in line at the DMV. 

4. You learn to solve your own problems.

Becoming a homeowner means you also become your own landlord. When something breaks, the only person who can fix it, or call someone to fix it, is you. With all your new responsibilities, you'll learn how to be more resourceful and self-reliant. 

You'll also figure out how to create a budget for incidentals like the plumber, exterminator, locksmith, etc. Consider putting aside an emergency fund when you first move into a new home so you're always prepared. And don't forget any of the fixes your inspector suggested during the purchasing process. You'll want to get a jump on that maintenance as soon as possible, so it doesn't become a bigger and more costly issue later.

If you don't want to hire someone for repairs, you and your partner might even learn some new maintenance skills. For some homebuyers, signing on the dotted line might be an official sign of "adulting," but taking care of that home is what really proves you're a grownup. 

5. Combining assets can be challenging, but it's necessary.

Before buying a home, especially if it's your first, you and your partner need to figure out what kind of place you can afford together. To combine assets effectively and give yourselves the best chance of landing your dream home, you first need to share details about each person's income and savings. More importantly, you need to share your credit scores and reports with one another because that affects your ability to get a mortgage and your interest rate. 

First-time homeowners should also try to avoid the all too common pitfall of assuming the loan amount you're qualified for is what you should spend. The lender doesn't always have a clear comprehension of you and your partner's daily expenses. Before meeting a lender, make a combined budget (including taxes) to determine how much you're comfortable spending monthly on a home.

If you're married or plan on tying the knot soon, you should also consider setting up a joint bank account to pay the mortgage, property taxes, insurance, and other housing costs. Each person can set up automatic monthly deposits from individual bank accounts to a joint account. This way, both people share the financial responsibility equally. 

6. Owning a home is taking a leap of faith, but the best things in life take hard work and sacrifice.

Even when you've spent months doing research, looking at houses, analyzing your finances, and probably losing a bit of sleep in the process, it all comes down to a leap of faith. Many homebuyers, especially first-timers, decide on a new house simply because "it feels right." While all the logistical information should back up your choice, you need to learn to trust your gut. Chances are you'll be paying for your home's mortgage for a long time, so it's important you feel like all the work you do and sacrifices you make are well worth it. 

Though buying a new home certainly isn't easy, it's a fulfilling and rewarding experience you'll look back on every single time you think, "There truly is no place like home."