When it comes to getting over a breakup, the first step — not losing your mind for too long — is often the hardest, but the most confusing step comes after you've finally (or at least mostly) washed your hands of your ex and re-enter the dating arena. Dating technology is about generating meetings, not guaranteeing compatibility. Even sites and apps that go beyond physical attractiveness and attempt to match people according to interests or lifestyle fall short when it comes to the curious interpersonal chemistry that is enough to ignite a spark that singles hope will lead to something more.
Feeling completely lost in the attempt to branch out, leave your apartment, and find someone companionable doesn't mean you're undatable. It doesn't mean you'll be forever alone. It just means you're normal. If my words fall short of convincing you, take a look at these 20 singles who've taken to the Whisper app to confess their own anxieties about the social dance of dating.
These might just make you feel a little more confident the next time you swipe right or ask for a number, whether you're getting back out there for the first time or the 10th time.
Either way, don't worry. Love has a way of returning, no matter how lost it might seem to you.